Hold Your Temper

Have you encountered people who cannot hold their temper? With a senseless and pointless issue, they think they get pricked, then they get angry like crazy? They are very proud to tell others that they fight a person to project an image that they are strong, to win peer approval, and on top of this, to satisfy their hunger to fight -- even when they are at the wrong side.

Calmness characterizes an educated and civilized person who chooses a reaction to a situation with reason.

When I was young, my mother used to tell me not to engage in any fight despite provocation like bullying, because I would just stoop down to their level. Being highly religious, she told me that at the core of our faith the core message of the Great Messiah's coming to earth is none other than peace.

It is disgusting to see people who confidently tell others about their religion, say prayers, join their so-called godly services and boast of their being holy, but they always want to fight people to win an argument, or simply to get what they want, or to be perceived as a dominant force over the others.

Since elementary days, I have attended many leadership seminars. We were trained to master our pride and anger. We were taught that we must always have self-control.

The words of Jack Weatherford ('Genghis Khan and the Making of the Modern World') are very aligned to this --

The first key to leadership was (is) self-control, particularly the mastery of pride, which was something more difficult to subdue than a wild lion, and anger, which was more difficult to defeat than the greatest wrestler. If you cannot swallow your pride, you can't lead.

I  can hold my temper to a certain extent. There were a few times when I got extremely upset and enraged due to provocation as many fabricated stories were thrown to me. For me, disrespect and arrogance must stop as it may lead to more unacceptable acts not only committed with me but with others. The person deserved fiery revenge, but I would never embrace other's anger as mine. God does not sleep and I am sure that hot-tempered people will get burned with their own hot coal if they will not change their behavior.

This is the period of my life when I have emptied myself of negativity -- worries, anger, fear, frustration, and hatred. Am too numb to respond to any provocation as I have insulated my whole being by now, with spirituality.

Germany Kent said,

If it comes, let it come. If it goes, it's OK, let it go. Let things come and go. Stay calm, don't let anything disturb your peace, and carry on.

My mantra -- Stay calm. Am processing something very important in my system. I need peace. I won't allow anyone to disturb it and I am shielding my peace with the boldness of a Viking woman.

I think we can make this Year of Tolerance more meaningful if we have massive anger and hatred management programs. Those who have them in their hearts carry a heavy loads that often lead to fights then feuds and sometimes, the consequences are horribly disastrous.

If and when you are in a situation that your self-control is challenged, be passionately motivated to rise over it. Hold your temper as it reflects your character. Pray for calmness and wisdom to properly deal with it.

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