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Recently my dear niece asked me if her half-sister in the US had a chat with me. Then a few minutes later her other half-sister in the Philippines asked me how I was. While I was taking a bath, I was wondering why both of them chatted with me that way.

They both knew I had that very positive outlook in life, no matter how dark everything seemed to be. But why they both asked me if I chatted with her? Although their sister was known to me via the web only for some time, maybe they noticed how sweet she was when commenting to my posts, as if we had known each other for a long time. I checked our previous chats but there was none. She was not even in my contact list! If she changed her FB account I did not know. So again another thought came into my mind -- was her FB account hacked?

Later, her sister in the Philippines told me that she committed suicide. I felt devastated. She requested me to comfort her half-sister here. I wished I had the chance to talk to her earlier. Shocked, I could not move for some minutes and could not do anything but pray for her soul. May God forgive her for what she did, and may she find peace in her final resting place. May her family members find comfort in knowing that they were in the thoughts and prayers of many people who love and care for them in that very sorrowful moment.

Why do people end their lives? Depression and frustration eat them and they find it pointless to go on with life. They are in total darkness, unable to find a way to go out and find even a spark of light. For them, there is no joy in living anymore. There is no reason to continue breathing. They feel (note that this is a feeling) that they are alone.

Robin Williams (RIP) said,
I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.
'People who make you feel alone' can be everywhere we go. In today's materialistic world, they increase in number exponentially. You feel alone when you have no worldly riches in life because they will let you feel that.

'People who make you feel alone' will even mindset you that everybody hates you so you will feel isolated, and really, really alone. This is what they think because this is really what they feel inside if they do not do or say things in earthly ways to attract people so they will not feel isolated.

'People who make you feel alone'  do not and will never ever define you. They do not own the happiness mill to tell you that they run out of stock so you must bathe in your loneliness and solitude.

Go to the opposite way where 'people who make you feel alone'  lead their feet to. Tell others who are in the same situation that they are not alone, that they are needed and loved.

Stay strong and be a fierce warrior. Life is precious. Passionately manage your feelings because dark feelings are not like dark chocolates that can add years to your life.

John 16 : 22 says --
You are now very sad. But later I will see you, and you will be so happy that no one will be able to change the way you feel.
What a promise for that happiness! It is just a matter of patiently waiting for that moment and staying strong against the pull of evils for total withdrawal. Do not let the sad 'now' erase the giant hope behind the word 'later'.

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